Making A Powerful First Impression.

Have you ever heard about how important first impressions are?  “You never get  a second chance to make a first impression.” “First impressions are lasting impressions.”  “First impressions set the pace for the rest of the relationship.”  Sure, you can’t tell everything about a person by the first impression…in fact, most of the time you can’t tell much about who they really are.  Nevertheless, so many people give so much weight to a first impression, that you either make a powerful one or spend the rest of the relationship making up for it.

So let’s look at the four key components of making a powerful first impression:

Confidence

The evidence is in on both the male and the female perspective, in business and in personal relationships…and in romance: confidence is the sexiest, most impressive and most attractive character trait that a man or a woman can portray.   What does it take to communicate genuine confidence? Well, first, there’s the outside traits: eye contact, good posture, firm handshake, assertiveness…but if that’s all you have to go on, you’re just faking it.

At the root of self-confidence is a high sense of personal value which comes from your own belief about who you are and what your value is. If this personal sense of value depends on a title or a status symbol, or on someone else approving of you, then you don’t have core confidence. Thankfully, it’s as easy as making a decision when it comes to deciding your own value.

You simply make up your mind and you affirm to yourself on a daily basis (out loud in front of the mirror whenever possible), that your personal value is yours to choose and yours alone.

Respect

The above kind of confidence must be balanced with respect for others. Even though you never want to let someone else’s impression of you determine your personal value, you respecting others is key when it comes to having successful interactions. Respecting others means that you use their name during the conversation,  that you really listen to them instead of waiting for your turn to talk (or listening to your own inner dialogue).

But much like confidence, there’s something much more important at the core of respect…

The Golden Rule.

In case you haven’t heard the Golden Rule, it’s: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Sounds simple enough right? Yes, but you also have to make sure that you have self-confidence and respect. After all, if you’re going to do to them as you would unto yourself, you have to be going right by yourself first.

A Little Mystery

Another golden rule of first impressions is: be a man/woman of few words. Give the person some things to wonder and to guess about. If you reveal everything about yourself up front, you leave no curiosity in the person’s mind, and curiosity is the first principle of generating interest. So don’t tell everything about yourself, leave a little mystery to create interest.

High Social Value

This is the most important rule of making a great first impression, and one which will be taken care of by radiating confidence, respect and mystery. But that’s not all. People of high social value are seldom alone and they value their time. This is why when making a first impression, it’s crucial that you end the interaction first (unless it’s just not possible).

Either way, show them that you value your time and that you’re not making yourself completely available to someone you just met.

 

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